Dearest beautiful. You deserve love. You are capable.
Wallow. Cry and snuggle with slippers, extra blankets, a messy bun, romcoms and turn off your phone, shut down your social media (for real! deactivate it, do not resort to it, it will NOT make you feel better) and read a book (a book...with real ideas and real substance--not People magazine). And if you really need a donut, hell, no one is judging you. Eat it.
Remember, you're you. There is something special about the you that you are, and don't lose sight of that. You deserve love. You are capable of love. You will find it again. Losing someone on a level you knew almost as much as you know yourself is a hard thing. Or maybe, you hardly knew the person they were becoming. People will change because people will always be growing and developing. As are you, dear one. They learn and our brains are always taking in something new. Be thankful to have opened your heart up like that, enough to let them in and be proud that you were there, that the both of you shared something special on a completely intimate level.
Remember that your relationship does not define you. So what, if you are use to making coffee for two. So what, if the place you always go to get take out assumes your full order by your caller ID. So what, if the socks and boxer-briefs are on sale or you know that he's gonna need deodorant. So what if you can't reach that spot in between your shoulders--let it itch. So what.
Remember, the world doesn't end or stop because you're sad and angry. There are no "broken heart" paid days off. Remember the world is still rotating and time is still passing. You still have a kick boxing class at 2 and a date with your best friends on Friday night to see that new Ryan Gosling movie. Just remember, time ticks--"this too will pass"--either wallow in its pain, suffering at the heartache. Or get up, go to the gym, take a long steamy shower, sign up for a new art class, flirt shamelessly with the barista you didn't notice before...put yourself out there. Feel!!!!!! something else.
Remember the good times and let there be other good times to come, too.
You're not broken just because your heart feels it.
Broken hearts will mend. We will grow. We will learn. We will.
Key inspiring Thomas Wolfe quote about life: